Psychology: Miss information when he was "pre-diabetic"

I'm gonna try to reply to all the posts in one time. I thank you all for your comments. My husband has been a diabetic for at least 3 years. He was given alot of miss information when he was "pre-diabetic" . Things like you are or your not type thing. He also was given limited information from the doctor about how to deal with diabetes. Our general dr was not the diagnosing doctor, a doctor in an urgent care was and he was not on the top of his mark with this even though he is diabetic. Our doctor is a very good dr and trys to balance what we need with what we want. She knew from the beginning he didn't want to go on insulin. I think it was more of an unknown. We had never met anyone that used insulin (that we knew of). It is very scary for me to think about shots and things like that.

When he was first diagnosed he had a massive infection. As we all know they can throw off the glucose. The surgeon actually had to do the surgery twice and said it would be a year before we knew if it was totally gone. In the hospital they gave him insulin that didn't seem to improve his gluocose levels so that was another issue.
Well that brings us to the last two years. He has had some success with diet, and oral meds. After about 6-8 months the meds start wearing off so the dr changes them. Now we are to the point there is nothing but insulin left to try. He is going in tommorrow for her to show us how to give the shots (I want to learn incase there is ever a need to give him a shot and I know that it won't be necessary in the beginning). He will be taking 1 shot at night of long lasting (that is all I know right now). I am the person who does all the cooking. My husband works full time which allows me to stay home. When I feel like it, I take on a project (I'm a drafter and all I need is my computer). He has a very stressfull job, I know that is part of the problem but at the same time I don't want damage done to his body. He also understands this. I have been the main sorce of inforamtion for him and as I am sure you all know there is alot of it out there.

I went to diabetes education a month or so ago and they recommended 60 g of carbs per meal for men. That's where that number came from and since I do the meal planning that's what I plan for, for him. I have problems with glucose levels also (not technically a diabetic but close enough to be treated like one). So I know that there is alot I can do to help him. I think that for him, it was just not a reality. His mom had diabetes but he didn't know that for a long time. Now he can't say that it was the infection so he has been working on it. He has asked me to "police" his food for him until he better learns what is and isn't acceptable. I try to get him to test but he doesn't want to. So I go with what the dr has told him. It's one step at a time for us.

I made lots of changes in our diet when he was first diagnosed. We went onto very strict diet plans. They didn't lower his glucose and they weren't workable for our family. So we are working on using south beach with some modifications right now (like carb counting). He will have to test more and he knows that. He is finally accepting his condition. It has taken a while but I think it is finally setting in.
There has been alot going on this year that has been bringing around changes in both of us. I think in the long run he will find this easier for him and better for him.
The Sleep Apnea will be addressed tommorrow along with alot of blood tests. He is going in a month early so she will do all the tests at tomorrows appointment. I will make sure to talk to her about the SA. The biggest hurtle is over. I think the worst part was making the decision to do the insulin but in a way it's a relief. Know what I mean? This has taken a tole on both of us. I know I take on way to much sometimes but this is his health. I have told him if he is not willing to fight for it I am. So now he is joining the battle and is gonna start taking responsibility for this condition as well. We do have a wonderful marriage. Saturday will be 27 years. I wouldn't change a day. We can and do talk about everything. So again thank you all for your support and take care.